This is part of a chapter of the book "Til Death Do Us Part?", available on Kindle [on sale right now for a week for a mere 99 cents!], or from www.SchoolofSelf-Reliance.com. Each chapter is full of real experiences and practical applications for everyone. (By the way, story also appears in the "Squatter in Los Angeles" book, also available on Kindle.]
DEALING WITH THE GHOST OF MRS.
KILLMAN
Shortly after Edward and I moved in as squatters, we became aware the
“something or someone” was still around in this old house. We presumed it was
the recently-deceased owner, a Mrs. Killman who I later learned had been
bed-ridden, overweight, and heavily medicated.
“She probably didn’t even know that
she died,” my friend and associate at the non-profit, Ellen, told me.
One night while Edward and I were
in our rooms – I had my door open and could see right through the kitchen – the
kitchen door began to shake violently. I could both see and hear the door
shaking. We both rushed into the kitchen to check it out. It was clear that
there was no earthquake, and inexplicably, the kitchen became very cold. We
looked around outside. There was no one in the inner yard, and we would have heard
it if someone opened the creaky gate to enter, or exit.
This happened another time, and
Edward and I talked about it for a long time, assuming it was some sort of
psychic presence, but not really knowing one way or the other. Then there were at least two occasions when
we heard dogs barking in the kitchen.
There were no dogs in the yard, no dogs next door, no dogs in the yard.
The barking was emanating from within the kitchen. The dog barking could not have been an “echo.”
It turned out that Mrs. Killman did
have two large dogs. We determined that
Mrs. Killman must have been a paranoid woman, for she had written multiple
wills and various trust deeds pertaining to her property. All this was unresolved when she died. And maybe she was forgetful.
I was unsettled by these events,
and at the earliest convenience, I shared these details with both the head of
the non-profit, REW, and Ellen who resided in the non-profit’s facility.
Shortly thereafter – within a week
or two – REW asked me if I could come over at 3 p.m. the following day to view
a show with him. I said
"yes." He added that this
particular program was extremely important, and that I should find a way to
view it even if I couldn't return to his place. He said that the show would help me to deal with the “ghost” that
had been “visiting” at my home.
Of course, I returned the following
day at 3 p.m., and seated myself comfortably in his cold “learning
chamber.” The show was about to begin,
which was "The Ghost and Mrs. Muir."
During the commercial just before the show, REW told me to watch very
carefully for the clues telling me what I should do about the "ghost"
in my house.
I had already told
REW and Ellen all about it – barking dogs though there were no dogs, and no
possibility of echoes, or underground passages, or a dog walking by. We knew that there absolutely was no dog in
the house, or near the house. However,
the old woman did have dogs that stayed in the house with her. Also, the house’s glass doors rattled
furiously on two occasions when there was no one around.
Since I had carefully inspected the
many papers left in the house when I moved in, I was likely the only person
aware that the old woman may have been the victim of foul play. Also, since the old woman took massive
amounts of medication, and Ellen told
me in her insightful way that Mrs. Killman was probably was very confused in
her initial after-death states, and possibly didn't even realize that her body
had died. These circumstances were the
classic ones which coincide with the presence of ghosts, or spirits of the
recently deceased.
"The Ghost and Mrs. Muir"
illustrated a couple who moved into an old house, and eventually began to have
"appearances." REW told me to
be particularly alert during those scenes depicting the way in which the woman
and man interacted with the ghost.
I watched the movie carefully,
generally wondering what I was doing there, since I didn’t see anything that
pertained to my situation. It was an
interesting movie, but seemed to be something other than what I needed. When the movie was over, REW restated the
practical lesson within the movie.
"They depicted the proper
two-step process for dealing with ghosts," he told me. "What was the first way in which the
people tried to interact with the ghost?"
Really? I shrugged. I tried to remember, but could remember
nothing useful. Ellen then spoke up,
saying, "She asked the ghost, 'Who are you? What is your name?’"
"That's important?" I
asked. REW responded in the affirmative,
as I began to recall that particular scene.
The first step was the name-challenge, and involved asking the entity
its name. Then the woman in the movie
asked the ghost why it was there in the house.
"That's right," said REW.
"The woman queried the ghost as to its purpose. And when such entities are queried using this formula, they are
compelled to respond," he told me.
I found this fascinating.
"So this is the way you should
interact with the ghost of the old woman," Ellen told me. “First make
certain you know who, or what, is present, and then find out what she wants of
you."
I wondered aloud how I would do
that. Ellen then began to explain a
method which would make it easy for the ghost in my house to interact with
me. She pointed out that you don't
always get vocal words from ghosts, nor do you often get writing on paper. However, Ellen suggested that I lay papers
on the floor for all the letters of the alphabet, and of numbers 0 through 9,
as well as all of the key documents that I found which might be of some
value. Ellen suggested that I could
talk to the ghost when I felt “her”
presence, and then ask her to communicate by moving the papers on the floor to
spell out words, or numbers, or move key papers.
"You need to decide for yourself
if you can help her in any way," Ellen told me, "and what you're
willing to do. She's contacting you
because you're there in her house, and you are the most likely person to
provide help. But you'll have to use
some creativity to get answers if you really desire to help. She may not be able to just speak like you
and I speak."
I wasn’t really certain about all
this, and it sounded vaguely like some sort of séance session, and I wasn’t
sure what I was willing to do. But Ellen was right, I was in her house, and I would rather that the ghost of
Mrs. Killman move on to somewhere else and not haunt my kitchen.
Lastly, according to both Ellen and
REW, once I performed this task, or resolved the issue that was keeping the
ghost of Mrs. Killman close to the earth plane, I was to tell her that she has
passed away, and that she should now go on, that her work is somewhere else.
I listened quite intently to all of
this, having a curious mix of excitement, anticipation, and even fear. I recorded all the details into my notebook.
That evening, I prepared myself to
interact with the presence of the old woman's ghost.
Onto the floor of my room, I placed
the key papers which had to do with the deceased woman. I also placed squares of paper on the floor,
one for each letter of the alphabet, thinking that perhaps "she"
would rattle papers, and might even spell out some message by sequentially
rattling letters of the alphabet.
By 1 a.m., I had everything set up,
since the usual time of the "appearance" was about 2 a.m. I wanted to be ready. I sat there reviewing the papers, wondering
how I would react if anything actually visually appeared.
At around 1:40, the room became
very cold with an oppressive presence. The cold was very penetrating, and I
felt some fear. I knew that
"she" was there. I attempted
to vocalize the words "What is your name?" but was unable to do
so. I literally could not speak. This was a unique sort of fear. I tried hard
to speak aloud, but could not! I
mentally stated the question, and I intently watched the papers on the
floor. I remained in a kneeling
position which I'd originally adopted so I wouldn't fall asleep. But I was now keenly alert, intently aware
that something else was there in the room with me, and painfully aware that I
could not utter a word. My intense fear
was not a rational thing, for I was aware that "she" could not hurt
me. Yet, I was actually sweating there
in that ice-box cold room.
None of the letters moved. I
recalled the Biblical quote about “there is no fear in love, for fear
has to do with punishment…” and so I worked to calm my fear-emotions, and made
the strong effort to emanate a Feeling
of Real Love. At first, I was simply
attempting to allow that Feeling of Love to be there, within me, and to “send”
it outward. Once I was able to do that,
I specifically attempted to send that Feeling of Love to the old woman, while
letting her know that I could be of some assistance. I mentally asked her to tell me what I could do, as I tried to
squeak out the vocal words. Then one of
the old legal papers in the middle of the room rustled. There was no chance of a breeze moving the
paper, since all the surrounding papers right there on the floor didn't move at
all. A second paper moved. I took note of which two papers rustled.
I sat there stiffly for another 15
minutes in the cold room, with its cinder-block walls. The night outside was quite, and dark, and
cold. After a while, it was clear that
the presence was gone and I knew it was over for that night.