DYLAN VS. BEETHOVEN: A Lesson
in Family Communication
[This is an edited chapter of a book I’ve been working
on for some time, which consists of stories from childhood, approximately age 4
through 14.]
One Saturday, with no
warning, Paul Martinez engaged my father in the relative value of pop vs.
classical music. This was probably
around 1964 when Bob Dylan was the king of pop, and seemed to be the messenger
of the “secret messages” to the younger generation. All my older brothers could fairly accurately be called Dylan
fans, if not Dylan worshippers. We all
seemed to regard listening to Dylan as a more meaningful spiritual experience
than sitting through Mass at Saint Elizabeth’s.
No one remembers how it
began, but it was a legendary conversation that lasted for hours. My father’s argument was that the music and
lyrics of Bob Dylan were of no lasting value and the young people were simply
too ignorant to realize it yet. Frank,
my father, said that Dylan would be forgotten in a few years. He compared Dylan to Beethoven and Bach, and
other classical musicians, and explained that Dylan was not in any way at the
level of the classical composers. Paul
wholeheartedly disagreed.
Their conversation began in
the living room where Frank would sit in his easy reclining chair and watch
TV. Paul sat near him on the
couch. Everyone in the household only
became aware of their conversation when we realized they were still at it after
about an hour. As the conversation’s
volume level would rise from time to time, we could all hear what they were
saying: “Of course you can put Dylan in
Beethoven’s category,” said Paul in his deep and sincere voice. “Have you
actually ever listened to what he’s saying in his songs?”
“He
just cackles,” said Frank, “and you really can’t even make out his words most
of the time. And I’m not even talking
about the words. And it’s only
important, as you call it, if you take an hour to explain it all to me. I don’t need any explanation to know that
Bach’s music really is good,” said Frank as Paul patiently waited his turn in
this lively exchange.
“Well,
I’m not saying that Dylan and Bach and the other classicals can be compared
directly. Obviously, they can’t,” said Paul, giving some ground to Frank. “But
there is obviously something that millions of people are responding to that you
aren’t seeing – or hearing. Dylan is
not just music; he is also the message. So we’ve got to examine some of the words
and see what he’s really saying.”
This
went on, back and forth, quiet and loud, for another hour. They opened up the record player and began
playing select songs for the other to listen to.
We prepared the usual Saturday night dinner –
something like hotdogs and baked beans and salad and some other
vegetables. We took a plate into Frank
and Paul, and we didn’t expect them to come into the kitchen as their debate
entered the third hour.
We
heard silence and then the lyrics of Dylan.
Sad Eyed Lady of the Low lands.
Hey Mr. Tambourine Man. Blowing
in the Wind. The Times They Are A
Changing. After each short selection,
there would be a brief silence, presumably as Paul removed the needle, and then
they would talk about it. We couldn’t
hear all the details. Then there would be a round of some of the classical
musicians’ work, a silence, and commentary by Frank.
We
cleared the table and washed the dishes, and I set up the chess board and began
a game with a neighbor who dropped by.
Our game lasted nearly an hour, and Robert won. The Dylan-Classical
debate continued.
And
then, all of a sudden, Frank and Paul were standing in the kitchen doorway,
shaking hands as Paul had to depart. My
brother David hadn’t said much the whole night, but he never did.
It
was late and Paul had to go home and so it was over. A stalemate, we presumed.
No clear winner, each side having done their best to promote their own
arguments to win over the other. But
both Paul and Frank were unbudgeable and they each stuck to their guns.
For
the rest of us, the conversation about the conversation had just begun.
“Why
doesn’t he ever have meaningful conversations with us,” David asked to no one
in particular. “He engaged with Paul
when Paul challenged, but shouldn’t he take it upon himself to engage us,”
asked David. No one really cared, but
it was clear in the conversation about the conversation that David didn’t
really care about whose music was best.
To David, the conversation was an example of a father that didn’t take
adequate interest in his own children, but would take extra time and supreme
effort in a very engaging discussion – but not with David.
I
inwardly agreed with David, but I didn’t say anything. In some very primal way, I am sure that I
longed to have a father who took an interest in me, who talked to me, who
taught me things, who engaged me in his activities for our mutual benefit. I am sure that David had a good point that
Frank should do these sorts of
things, but I was not bitter about the fact that he did not do so.
The
rest of us had probably long ago accepted Frank for what and who he was. To me, Frank was neither good nor bad, right
nor wrong – he simply was my father, doing what he did in his patterns of
somewhat predictable behavior. But to David, Frank’s conversation was like a
slap in the face, saying that he can take the time with a friend of the family,
but would not take the time with his own children. At least that’s how I took David’s reaction.
Depending
on who you asked during the various conversations about the conversation in the
weeks and months that followed, the entire event was amusing, meaningless,
interesting, a waste of time, insightful, and/or demonstrated that Frank was
capable of in-depth abstract thought and could maintain an intellectual
conversation and hold his own for hours.
Though I generally disagreed
with Frank’s premise, his performance definitely boosted my image of him. And likewise my image of Paul was greatly
enlarged. Here was a peer of my brother
who could debate with intensity and authority, and try to convince my father of
a point of view which I held, but felt totally unable to communicate in any
meaningful way.
1 comment:
Chris,
For what its worth I firmly believe we have come to a place in music and information that has never been crossed before. I took two years of music history when I was a music major. Popular pop music as we know it has always been around, but it has never been recorded as a historical record the way it is now. Yes, they have certain manuscripts from some of their works but these are minimal in comparison to the vast amount of music left by Back, Beethoven, Mozart, and others. I remember one discussion in class when my instructor spoke openly about one or two of Beethoven's pieces where the melody was believed to come from street musicians of the day. Sort of like what some arrangers do now with popular music by turning it into easy listening instrumentals or what have you.
My point is a simple one, not enough time has passed to see how historically recorded popular music will hold up. Though, one has to remember that Bach, Mozart, and others were paid musicians. If they were alive in our time there is a good chance Mozart would have been playing guitar not violin at a young age. Some of (but not all of) the best composers and musicians are in fact writing popular music and movie themed music (our modern day classical, like the theme to star wars). Bach wrote for the church because that is who paid. Today movies and popular music pays. How it will all come out historically 300 years from now? i don't know. I do know that Dylan's songs have been recorded by numerous artists and have at the very least lasted 50 years. Ya gotta start somewhere.
Marc
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